5 things I wish I could tell myself as a first time mum

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Having a baby is the most wonderful, stressful, exhausting and mind blowing thing ever to happen in your life. I am one of those people who genuinely loves being a mummy and everything that comes with mummy territory (soft play and everything) but how I am now with D is completely different to how I was when I had K. The whole “second baby, second nature” quote really rings true and I wish I could almost rewind back to when I had K and give myself the advice that I know now. Second time round you are a lot more flexible, a lot more relaxed and you do what you want to do.

Here is the advice I wish I had given myself two years ago…

  1. Pay absolutely no attention to Google or Netmums. I don’t think it mattered what K did as a baby, whether it be spitting up after her milk (obviously reflux or a milk allergy!- cheers Google) or how old they should be when they hit a certain milestone. I looked for reassurance in one of the above websites on the internet. I’ve come to realise that actually, Google nor Netmums doesn’t hold the answer you are looking for. Usually the answer lies within your instinct. They don’t look too well? they probably aren’t -take them to a dr. They haven’t sat up yet? They will in their own time. It really is hard as a first time mum not to search the internet for answers to everything as these little humans don’t come with an instruction manual but if your unsure of something use your instinct or ask a professional.
  2. Savour every tiny little second of that newborn stage as it really really goes in the blink of an eye. Something that I didn’t quite realise with K. I was forever wishing her life away in one respect or another. “oh I can’t wait for her to sit up” “oh I can’t wait for her to walk” “oh it will be amazing when she talks”. Little did I know, all those stages come super duper fast and before I knew it, my little newborn is a stomping two and a half year old. Please – cherish it whilst you can. Let them lie on your chest just that little bit longer.
  3. The night feeds suck…really suck – but you wont be doing them forever. As hard as it is to imagine, this little milk machine WILL stop wanting feeds during the night at some point. Get through it by whatever means possible (a cup of tea and a chocolate biscuit helps *ahem*)
  4. Sleep when they sleep. This is the biggest piece of advice I give to new mums now because when they are asleep we feel that’s our chance to catch up with TV/housework/whatever….NO, NO, NO, NO, NO! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, SLEEP!!! I never took that advice 1st time round but I would kill for it now. Having your second baby means you can never sleep when they sleep because you have a toddler to look after and some times it’s painstakingly exhausting. I sometimes long to go back to the one baby days so I can sleep when they sleep! – Please, let the cobwebs lie and get some rest.
  5. You’re doing OK. You are a kick ass woman that has grown a tiny human being in your womb for 9 months then got them out again (by whatever means possible). They’ve tipped your world upside down, left you sleep deprived, probably a stone or two heavier, made your nipples bleed and they’ve made you question your sanity. But at the end of the day when the night draws in, you are both here to tell the tale, your baby is safe and happy and they are loved. YOU ARE AWSOME. High five yourself.

What advice would you give to yourself as a first time mum? I’d love to hear from you!

XOXOXO

 

 

Valentines heart cookies – child edition

When it’s a cold, wet day and I have little option than to spend my days indoors with an active toddler, I can sometimes find it difficult to entertain her and stop her from getting bored so usually in an afternoon we do some sort of craft or baking activity. These activities usually only last around 15-20mins before K looses interest so they have to be quick and simple and easy to clean up *ahem*. One baking activity that I love to do with her is the simple cookie recipe. We have made these cookies endless times and they are great for toddlers as it is so simple. Plus you can theme them however you like. Given that valentines day is just around the corner, we decided to make some valentine heart shaped cookies.

Ingredients

Gather all your ingredients up

Gather all your ingredients up

For the cookies –

250g butter (softened)

320g sieved plain flour

125g sieved icing sugar

1 tablespoon of milk

1 teaspoon of vanilla extract

For the toping –

Icing sugar

15ml of warm water

a few drops of red food colouring

hundreds and thousand sprinkles

Method

For the cookies:

Prep| 30 mins                Cook| 12mins

  1. Preheat oven 170 degrees C/ gas mark 3
  2. Mix the butter in a bowl until creamed then add the remaining ingredients and mix until a dough is formed
  3. Knead dough until smooth then place on a surface and roll out to about 6mm thick
  4. Using a cookie cutter, cut out dough pieces and place on a lightly greased baking tray and cook for 12 minutes
  5. One cooked, remove the cookies from the oven and place on a cooling rack until hardened.

Do not try to ice the cookies until they have completely cooled down.

For the icing:

  1. Sift 125g of icing sugar in to a bowl. Gradually add 15mls (1Tbsp) of warm water until the icing becomes thick enough to coat the back of a spoon.
  2. Add a few drops of red food colouring to the icing and stir
  3. Cover the top of the cookies with the icing and add sprinkles as desired.

Enjoy!

She loved stirring the ingredients together

She loved stirring the ingredients together

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The finished result

 

 

It’s safe to say that Daddy was very much over the moon when K presented him with her cookie and told him that he was her valentine!

What do you like to do to entertain your children? I love for you to give me some ideas!!!

Happy Valentines Day!

XOXOXO

First days and statement necklaces #littleloves

Fri-yay! It literally feels like two minutes ago since I wrote last fridays #littlelove post

It has been a week of emotional highs for the FLAM household as, after weeks of searching and prepping K for nursery, her first day finally came. She will only be going once a week to start with for 4 hours but I feel it will do us both a world of good. She had such a great time and made plenty of new friends. She was buzzing for the rest of the day when she came home and can’t wait to go again soon.

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Things I am loving this week…

Read

I usually read at night because it’s the only real time I get to sit and concentrate but I’ve been so tired this week due to a sleep-shy baby I haven’t been interested. That said, I have a couple of magazine subscriptions (gurgle and green parent) and one of them came this week so I made time to sit with a brew and read that! I’m hoping to start a new book next week providing I get some much needed sleep!

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Heard

This week I heard about the sad passing of Sir Terry Wogan. I really liked him as a TV presenter. He used to make me laugh with his quick witted comedy. It is really sad how many people in the public eye have died from cancer this year already. It makes me realise that you shouldn’t take life for granted and to live every day as it comes!

Watched

This week I have been catching up on Bodyshockers: Nips, tucks and tattoos with Katie Piper. I have never hid the fact that I like trash/easy viewing TV at night and this is perfect. Especially when I’m busy and I have one eye on the TV and one eye on the computer/phone.  It is a programme that I generally watch on my own though as my husband is very squeamish and will not watch anything involving blood or surgical procedures.

Made

This week we have been doing some seasonal valentines day crafts and baking. (Watch out next week for some posts on that) K and I made these heart shaped cookies for daddy. I won’t go in to too much detail as it will spoil a blog post I have in mind for next week. It was so much fun and K really enjoyed making (and eating) them.

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Wore

This week I have been loving the blazer and statement necklace look. It’s a look that instantly pulls you together and  makes you feel like you’ve made an effort when you really haven’t. Its easy going and chic. I have been loving these statement necklaces which I picked up in M&S for pennies. I couldn’t believe my luck. I think they are fab! I just need to practice the art of taking selfies!!

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And lastly…

It’s definitely a Fri-yay for me this week as I am leaving my babies with their daddy this weekend and I am heading to Liverpool with my girlfriends for the night for a belated birthday celebration. I literally can not wait. I love my babies and my husband but I haven’t been away for the night with my friends since before I got pregnant with K which is over 3 years ago. I will say, it is much overdue. I am looking forward to good food, nice cocktails and great company. Being able to let my hair down and be off mummy duty for the night is just what the doctor ordered!

That’s it from me this week. What have you been up to? I’d love to hear from you.

XOXOXO

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Me and mine (January 2016)

I am so excited to be apart of the me and mine project this year as I absolutely love the idea of taking the time out to take a picture of my family all together. It’s something that doesn’t happen very often as, although I take lots of photos, I’m very rarely in them due to being behind the camera!

It’s such a lovely project to look back on and see what we were doing or loving that particular month.

January, I think, has been such a long gloomy month. The weather has been awful and has seen us spend more time than usual squirreled away in the house. Although I must admit, with the hustle and bustle of December it has been nice to have a few restful lazy days to recuperate. Although it has been a long and gloomy month January has seen us through potty training and nursery placements so it has been a busy month in that sense.

This months photo of us was taken last week when the snow was with us. (I was trying to take a photo of us this week but I’ve been too busy!) but it was quite nice to capture the weather and us all being wrapped up outside. It probably isn’t the best photo I’ve ever taken but the wind and snow was against us plus I had to be quick and take it in one shot as D wasn’t particularly impressed about being out in the cold! But some times in life things are less than perfect and sometimes you have only one shot to nail it. I think I strive to much for perfection and perhaps need to take a step back and realise that being perfect isn’t always possible and the end outcome is still as beautiful.

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This month we are loving…

 K being independent with he potty

 Lazy days in the house

Organising and decluttering

Spending time organising our family holidays for the year

Being together as much as possible

That’s it from me this month. I aim to take a few more pictures of us next month! What have you been up to with your family this month? I’d love to hear from you!

XOXOXO

Nursery, Michael and Massages #littleloves

Gosh, I can’t believe it’s Friday here already! Although, does anyone else think that January needs to do one now!? Longest. Month. Ever. I get really fed up of miserable, wet weather and dark nights. I really struggle to keep K entertained when the weather is gloomy as it means your stuck in doors a lot more instead of being out at the park. It’s been quite a busy week in the FLAM household this week and most of our evenings have been spent viewing nurseries for K to go to. She is completely ready for nursery now and to branch out on her own a little bit and I feel confident now to let her spread her wings a bit. Had you asked me to send her to nursery 6 months ago, I would have said no, no, no. I couldn’t let go of my baby!! But my baby needs to flourish now and as of next Wednesday she will be attending nursery for 4 hours once a week. I 100% guarantee I will be blubbing in the car once I’ve dropped her off.

 

HAPPY-FRIDAY-BD

 

Things I am loving this week…

Read

I’ve finally managed to sit and finish “Gone Girl” by Gillian Flynn. It has taken me around 3 months to finish it. Partly because I have been too busy so finding time to just sit and read a book was difficult but partly because I wasn’t a massive fan of it either! I didn’t think the film adaptation of it was great and I found the book to be exactly the same. It just didn’t grab me! I’m sure a lot of you will be shocked by this revelation as I hear nothing but good things about it, but, I don’t know. It just wasn’t for me! I have also been trying to read as many blogs as I possibly can but narrowing those down to my favourites is proving difficult at the minute. There are some amazing blogs out there! Perhaps next week I can individually name my favourites, who knows!?

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Heard

In terms of hearing this week it has to be (dare I admit it) the new Little Mix album! My daughter loves them despite being a fickle two year old so she wanted to buy their album at Christmas with some money she had been given. This is all I have heard this week as it has been on a few of our car journeys. Next week I will try to be a little bit cooler! *ahem*

Watched

I am loving the new Fearne and Gok – off the rails programme. It’s a bit like the UK version of Fashion Police. They critique celebrities outfits and show you what  is hot (or not) in fashion that week. It is right up my street. Combining fashion and light viewing is something I crave when I’m tired at the end of the day.

Made

This week I made – Random meals! Is that cheating?…hmmm I don’t think so. Our freezer in the garage is due to be defrosted so we are trying to eat EVERYTHING in there to make it easier to do. Therefore there has been times this week when my family has had literally the most random things that have been left over in our freezer! Anyone for fish fingers, waffles and Yorkshire puddings!?

Wore

I bought a beautiful Michael Kors handbag with some Christmas and Birthday money I received this year and quite frankly, given that I’m on mum duty pretty much all the time, it’s not really had an airing yet. Therefore I made an effort one day this week to take it out with me. It probably wasn’t the most practical idea I’ve ever had given that I ended up looking like a bag lady with 3 bags in tow but it felt nice all the same. I think I will leave Michael for the special outings in future though and just shove my belongings in D’s change bag like I usually do.

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And lastly…

I’ve been spending a bit of time these last few weeks working on my 2016 goals and one of those goals was to make a little bit more of “me time”. My lovely husband bought me a voucher for Christmas to have an hour long aromatherapy massage at a local salon so I utilised said voucher and went for the massage this week. It was absolutely heavenly and just what my post-baby, tired mummy body needed.  It is really important to make time for yourself even if it is only an hour, it makes all the difference to your mind, body and soul.

XOXOXO

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