Coping with two children under the age of 3

Coping with two under 3

I always knew I wanted to be a mum, it was always in my “life plan”. I also knew that I wanted them to be close in age so that they could grow up together and maybe be best friends. I’ve mentioned before that I’ll never quite know if my family is complete and the prospect of a 3rd child will always be somewhat of a question mark but for now I’m happy with the two I’ve got. There’s 2 years and 3 months between the two of them and it’s quite tricky sometimes having two children under the age of 3. I know there are plenty of people out there who have smaller age gaps between their children and I have the upmost respect for them. It’s not easy no matter what the age gap but I’ve wrote down a few of my tips that help me cope looking after two small children.

Get out of the house – It genuinely doesn’t matter where you go, or what you really do so long as you spend a portion of your day (everyday) out of the house. Go to the park, baby groups, supermarket anything. My worst days with two children are the days where I’ve been couped up in the house.

Allow more time – This goes hand in hand with the above advice. It takes me twice as long (if not more) to get 3 of us ready and out than it ever did when I had just one child. Allow plenty of time so you don’t end up barking orders at your children.

Spend quality time with each of them – When D takes a nap in a morning I always make sure I stop whatever I’m doing and get on the floor and play with my daughter. It gives us quality time where she has my undivided attention without the distraction of a baby. Likewise, K still goes to her grandparents on Mondays and Fridays as these are the days I used to work so it gives me one to one time with D.

Keep on track with the housework Something I’m still trying to master! My house will never be a show home of any sort and will always be that little bit cluttered but it’s a typical loving family home. It’s hard work making sure that the children and hubby are taken care of and the house is running smoothly and as I’ve already stated, I’ve probably dropped the ball a few times when it comes to the housework but trying to keep on top of the endless washing piles and dirty dishes makes your home life run that little bit more smoothly meaning that ultimately you get more free time to spend with your children. 30 minutes per day should ensure that everything is ship shape.

Have “me” time – This is so important yet most of us don’t do it. I know I don’t do it half as much as I should for fear of feeling self indulgent but something as simple as a hot soak in the bath once the kids have gone to bed will help you relax and regroup. A happy mummy makes for a happy home!

XOXOXO

What’s in my change bag

I thought I would do a post today to show you what I carry in my change bag with a baby and toddler in tow. I love reading other people’s blog/vlog posts like this as I’m so very nosy plus it gives me reminders and inspiration on what to put in to mine. So here we go…

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My change bag that I am using at the minute is the Pink Lining “Yummy Mummy” bag in cream bows on peppermint. I think it’s fantastic. It has really cute detailing on it and is deceptively spacious. I can fit all my stuff in as well as baby and toddler stuff. The bag itself has one main zip compartment and has several pockets inside it where you can organise your nappies, drinks and snacks etc and it comes with a handy change mat and wet bag. The bag is priced at £79.00 and you can purchase this exact bag or similar others here

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In my bag I have:

Change mat and wet bag – As mentioned, these came with the bag and I use them daily. The wet bag is great to put wet or dirty clothes in that the children have had and it keeps them separate from everything else in my bag.

Pampers wipes – I go through wipes like there’s no tomorrow and I don’t just use them on bums. I use them to clean spillages up or mucky faces and I even wipe down public highchairs with them! I have pampers at the minute but I am not loyal to that brand I genuinely buy whatever is on offer. I do try to stick to sensitive wipes though as my two have really sensitive skin.

Nappies and Hand sanitizer – I used Pampers nappies up until D was around 6 months old and then I found I was having too many leaks with them so I switched to Asda’s little angel range. They are brilliant! I haven’t had a daytime leak yet. I sometimes carry nappy cream with me but D is pretty good with his skin at the minute. I also make sure I carry some Milton hand sanitiser with me so I can clean my hands when I’ve changed bums etc.

Sterile bottle and ready made formula – Makes feeding on the go a doddle.

Tommee Tippee Bottle warmer – This is really good to have in a bag if your bottle feeding as it means you can warm your milk up anywhere. The only downside is that it’s really bulky and takes up quite a bit of space in your bag.

Jar or pouch of puree food and spoon – D is currently weaning so I usually have some sort of pureed food in my bag for lunch times

Juice bottle – For K’s juice during the day

Snacks – Lots of snacks go into my bag. Ever need to entertain a bored toddler or diffuse a tantrum situation? – Give them a snack. It works like a charm!

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Tissues – I can’t abide snotty noses and my two seem to have a constant stream of it! No thank you.

Germolene – Perfect to put on cuts and grazes when you are out and about.

Sun Hats – Now that the better weather is here I have put them both a sun hat in my bag. I also have the new Garnier for Kids spray on sunblock but that isn’t pictured here.

Spare clothing – Vest and a sleepsuit for D if he has had a leaky nappy or generally needs a freshen up and pants, trousers and socks for K as she is potty trained but sometimes has an accident. It’s very rare this happens but I like to be prepared.

Teething equipment – I always keep Sophie and Anbesol in my bag for the teething issues we have during the day. They work wonders and I wouldn’t be without them. Sophie also doubles up as a distraction toy! Good old Sophie!

Purse, Phone, Lippy – Last but not least, I shove my things in the change bag too so I don’t have to carry a bag myself. I am quite low maintence with what I need (luckily) so these just get put wherever there is room!

So that’s it for my general day-to-day bag! Like I say, I carry quite a bit and it all fits in the Yummy Mummy bag so I’m thrilled with it.

I’d love to know what change bag you have and if there’s any must have item that you carry that I haven’t mentioned here!

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XOXOXO

Me and mine (April 2016)

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These months photos are coming straight from Graves Park this morning, one of K’s favourite destinations in the world it appears. We must go here AT LEAST once a week. This morning I realised that although we had done quite a bit as a family this month and had a few days out I’d not taken any photos of the four of us together (naughty naughty!) So off we went with my camera and my tripod and poised ourselves in front of the lambs to take a photo. I do feel really disappointed when I don’t get many photos of us all together. It’s annoying because I genuinely have my camera on me at all times, whether that be on my phone or my big camera and I’m always taking pictures of my family (I’m seriously snap happy) but because I’m behind the camera lense I’m never in them therefore we rarely get pictures all together. This is what I love so much about the me and mine project, it forces you to take the photos you would have otherwise missed.  So as per usual, next month I promise to take more photos as a family throughout the month! (I fear that is a goal I will be making each and every month)

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The weather has been a funny one this month. Annoying as that is. Firstly we have the sun so hot that we all get sunburn then it quickly turns into rain and then snow. The joys of living in the UK I guess! It does make it really difficult though to make family plans as you never know what it’s going to be like. Like I mentioned, we have had a few weekends where we’ve done a fair bit together including a trip to a wildlife park earlier this month and a trip to the bowling alley. Plus the usual park/picnic and swimming trips. D is becoming more aware of his surroundings now which is lovely so I feel like he is really taking in what we are doing and enjoying it to a certain extent (as much as a 7 month old can do, anyway). I do love March, April and May as they are the months with the most bank holidays what with Easter and May day so it means extra family time and the hubby not being at work as much.

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May is particularly quite in our household but the hubby’s birthday ensures that we will have a few family days. Let’s just hope the weather picks up for the next upcoming month!

This month we are loving

Daddy being off work more for the bank holidays

Picnics (when the weather holds out)

Visiting the animals at the park and at the zoo

Waking up to sunshine

Lighter nights

K using her scuttle bug or scooter

That’s it from us this month. If you want to see more of what we get up to as a family then head over to Instagram where you can find my daily pictures and musings.

XOXOXO

The Me and Mine Project

Wildlife Parks, mediocre books and great dramas #littleloves

I haven’t done a #littleloves post for such a long time because I found myself too busy and although this week is no different in terms of busy-ness I decided that I needed to take some time out to write a blog post. Being the procrastinator that I am, I will ALWAYS find something else to do!

So I’m just going to jump right in and start…

Read

If you’ve seen my Instagram lately you will know that I have been trying to read Sophie Kinsella’s latest book in the Shopaholic series – Shopaholic to the rescue. I love love love the shopaholic series especially the 1st ever book as I could really relate to her but this book hasn’t really captured me at all. I feel like it has lost its reasoning and I do believe Sophie Kinsella should have quit whist she was ahead and stopped writing after the 3rd book. It’s such a shame. Having spoke to a few people on social media it appears that I’m not the only one who thinks this. I will continue to read it until it’s finished as I never leave a book unfinished but it’s not been my favourite read.

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Watched

Anyone watching Marcella??? OMG, if your not, you need to be. I feel like our TV has brought us so many great British dramas over the last few months and Marcella is one of them. Anna Friel is fantastic as the lead actress. I won’t spoil it by telling you what it’s about but it is so gripping. It’s still on catch up so go ahead and watch it. I do believe you won’t regret it!

Heard

This week I’ve heard about the sad passings of Victoria Wood and Prince. Both icons in their own genres. 2016 has seen so many people in the public eye pass away it’s really really sad especially as most of them are due to the big C. I just pray that there is no more. Surely that’s enough for one year!

Made

I haven’t made anything this week. Except, maybe a sausage casserole for tea last night. Does that count? ha- it does now.

Wore

I recently purchased a teething necklace for D which I wear round my neck so when I’m holing him (which is 90% of the time) or he’s in the sling he can have a little chew. It’s so good. It cost £10 which I was well impressed with and it’s really colourful so looks great. It’s 100% safe so a winner all round really. I would really recommend buying one if you have a teething baby or they make really good gifts for baby showers/new mums etc.

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And lastly…

The hubby took annual leave from work yesterday and if you know me at all you will know that I LOVE IT when we get to have a day in the week together just the four of us. I literally clear my schedule regardless of what’s on it if I know there’s a chance we can spend some time as a family (cheesy or what!?). We decided to take advantage of the sunny weather and head to the Yorkshire Wildlife Park. It’s only 35 minutes away from us and it’s such a great place filled with loads of animals. They have recently built a reserve for polar bears and it’s the only polar bear reserve in the UK so that’s pretty special. K loved seeing all the animals and loved being outdoors so she was in her element. It was such a great day but a long one. We had two overtired little ones by the time we got home. It was so worth it though. I wanted to post the pictures that I took yesterday but for some reason they wont load up. I will leave it for another post real soon!

XOXOXO

Little Loves post

 

D- You are 7 months old (A letter to my son)

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My darling boy, you are 7 months old today. That’s actually quite painful for me to write. How did you become 7 months old!? It has literally gone in a blink of an eye. I’ve tried to cherish everyday with you as I am aware of how fast the baby year goes but still I’m shocked on how fast it has gone. We’ve had such a good month my little man – lots has happened! You are sitting much better by yourself. You still need Daddy or me as support but you are going longer periods sat up alone. It wont be long before you have fully mastered it and won’t need me or Daddy at all.

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We are still having a few issues with weaning. You haven’t taken much food at all and would much prefer your milk! But unfortunately little one, you can not live of milk forever. You will not let me feed you pureed food at all and just clamp your mouth shut when I come near you with it and when I try you with finger foods you either just throw it on the floor or you make yourself sick. It’s not been a fun time as yet. You have been referred to a speech and language therapist to see if they can understand why you wont take any food but until they see you, I shall just keep trying. I’m sure you will get there with it in your own time just like everything else. Your personality is shining through much more this last month D. You are starting to show an interest in more objects and grabbing everything in sight. You become fustrated and grumble at things if you cannot reach it or it is taken away from you. Nothing is safe around you at the minute, especially your sisters toys. K is really enjoying your company at the minute, you are getting to a stage where she feels she can play with you a bit more and likes to play with her toys with you. Her favourite game is building tower blocks and watching you knock them down. That game is particularly entertaining for her at the minute. You continue to enjoy her company and the attention! You’re still not sleeping right through the night but your night time rountine has become much more tolerable now. You still go to bed at 7.30pm (usually a bit before) and sleep right through until 2-3am when you wake up for a feed. You then sleep right through till around 7am so I really can’t moan at that.  We read you stories before bedtime and you enjoy this alot. I think the mixture of the cuddles and the pictures on the books are faviourites with you but it is becoming a bit of a struggle to stop you from eating the book half way through! I love the mornings with you my gorgeous man, I love the smile on your face when I come to greet you and say good morning. You smell like warm sleepy baby and it’s just lovely. Sometimes when you wake up before I do I hear you singing to yourself in your cot and it really makes me smile. It’s better than any alarm clock! The weather is getting better so we are spending a little bit more time outdoors at the park. I can’t wait for the summer to come so we can spend even more time outside so you can explore your surroundings. We are starting to do a few more activities during the days now you are getting that little bit older. I have taken you to a couple of music classes which you seem to enjoy and I hope to start a sensory class real soon. Being around you is such a pleasure my little man. I can’t wait to see what the next month brings us!

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XOXOXO