Being a mother and what it really means

It’s Mother’s day today. A chance to celebrate the fact that we, as mums, are bloody awesome human beings. Don’t get me wrong, none of us are perfect. I know I’m certainly not. When I first found out I was pregnant with my 1st baby, I had all these (unrealistic) ideas of how I was going to be and act as a mum and how I was going to raise my children. I certainly wasn’t going to be a shouty mum. I absolutely wasn’t going to be one of those mums who let their child play on some sort of electronic device and beige food was strictly band from the table. Only wholesome home cooked food in my kitchen thank you very much! Did that happen? Did it hell.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t scream at my children from morning till night as they sit googled eyed at the Ipad whilst shoving fish fingers and potato waffles down their necks. But I do have the odd day where I’m a little bit more shouty than I’d like (because if I have to ask Katie to put her shoes on one more time so help me god…) and the Ipad is out whilst Dylan is napping so I can quickly get the hoovering done. I’ve also had days where I’m absolutely knackered and I forgot to take the meat out of the freezer so only chicken nuggets will do. And do you know what?

It’s all good.

We are all doing our best aren’t we!? I know I certainly am. Sure, every day isn’t perfect. Sure, I have days where if I have to listen to one of the children whinge one more time I might stab myself in the eye.

I have days where I go to bed and I could burst in to tears because I’ve felt guilty over counting the minutes down until their bedtime. But all in all, I’m an awesome mum. I love my kids with everything that I am.

I tell them I love them everyday, several times a day. I keep them safe. I smother them in kisses and make them feel important – because they are. I feed them, dress them, play with them. I interact with them and I challenge them. I try to get them to see the world for what it is. I encourage them to ask questions. I embrace the fact that sometimes they want to be different. I nurse them back to health when they are unwell. I wipe their tears when they are upset and I kiss their “ouchies”.

I read to them. I comfort them. I reassure them when they are scared. I teach them right from wrong. I play that game “just one more time” even though we’ve played it a 100 times already. This to me, is what being a mother is. Taking the good with the bad, the giggles and the tears. The endless sleepless nights. The nights where I’ve stood for hours on end rocking them back and forth until they go back to sleep.

It’s not just about giving birth to a child, it’s about the aftermath. The years ahead where your not always perfect but you’ll do. Having days where you beat yourself up and tell yourself you could have tried harder or been more patient. The days where you should have listened a bit more instead of shrugging them off or telling them to be quiet.

We are all in the same boat. I know every single one of you reading this will relate to it somewhere because we are all awesome. We are rocking motherhood and our children love us for it. We aren’t perfect – we’re just mums.

Happy Mother’s day!

 

What’s in my toddler changing bag

I wrote a blog post a while back about what was in my baby changing bag (What’s in my change bag) and it had quite a lot of interest so I thought I’d do an updated version now Dylan is out of the baby stage and very much in the toddler stage.

What is it about wanting to know what people carry around with them? I personally love it! I love seeing what people have when out and about. It gives me a bit of inspiration and makes me think if I’ve got everything I need. Almost like a visual checklist. I also like “What’s in my handbag” posts from the ladies out there but I don’t know if that’s me bordering on the line of insane. What do you think!? Anyway!…

When babies become toddlers, it is a relief to all mums out there that you don’t need to carry around with you the whole bumph that comes with having a baby.

I decided that because I didn’t need as much stuff, I didn’t need the large change bag that I had (although I loved it) So I purchased this dinosaur print from Cath Kidston. I am a HUGE Cath Kidston fan and I have a lot of her bags so I felt this one was perfect. It had Dinosaurs on to please Dylan and a Cath Kidston label to please me. Everyone’s a winner! Except probably, my husband. God bless him. He doesn’t feel the Cath Kidston love the way I do. Nevertheless, he still wears it when out and about with our son.

So what’s in my changing bag?

  1. Nappies. I usually take 3 out with me. Three being the magic number and all. I’m never out long enough to use all 3 so I’ve never had a “no nappy” crisis.
  2. Wipes. Used for cleaning everything but the kitchen sink. Unlike nappies, I have to be brand specific with these as for some reason Dylan has a reaction to all wipes except Pampers sensitive and Mamia (Aldi) sensitive wipes.
  3. Tissues. For those snotty, snotty noses. I can’t bare a green encrusted nose.
  4. A Change of clothes. I like to keep a spare pair of trousers and pants for Katie in the bag too in case of any accidents.
  5. A Change mat. A Cath Kidston change mat which one of my friends kindly gave me.
  6. Juice and snacks. Always important with Children. I try to keep healthy snacks in my bag but sometimes only a milky bar will do.
  7. A toy. Used purely as a distraction tool. The toys changes from week to week as does Dylan’s interests. This week it’s lightening Mcqueen.
  8. A dummy. For nap times and tantrums.
  9.  My purse and phone. I don’t carry my own bag it drives me nuts having to lug two bags around (3 if Katie’s at nursery and has her nursery bag) So I just put my purse and phone in to the change bag. Sometimes I carry a lipstick too but if we’re being honest, I’m never one to remember to top my lippy up during the day anyway so it’s sometimes a pointless product.

That’s it in my changing bag. The contents has dwindled dramatically from the baby days. I hate it when your baby isn’t your baby  anymore but I am glad when you don’t have to be armed with all the products that going out with a baby entails.

What do you keep in your changing bag? Do I carry more or less than you?

I’d love to hear from you!

 

 

 

What do your children say? An interview with my 3 year old

What do your children say? I was scanning Pinterest the other day (find me here) when I came across a blog post idea that I thought was great! An interview with your child on their birthday every year. It’s a way to document their answers and see how they change as they get older. I thought this was a fantastic idea so I decided to interview Katie and see what answers she gave me. When I decided to interview her, she was laid in bed watching a video on her tablet. This is her way of having quiet time in an afternoon.

Interview with Katie – 7th February 2017

What is your name? “Katie”

How old are you? “3”

How old is Mummy? “12” – Not quite, love

How old is Daddy? “13, I know that because you told me he was older than you so that makes him 13” – Your logic is correct, your answer isn’t.

What is your favourite colour? “Pink”

What is your favourite toy? “Erm…Rabbit” (A comforter she’s had since she was a baby)

What do you want to be when you grow up? “A trainer, so I can drive trains”

Do you mean a train driver? “Yes, I want to be a train driver”

What’s your favourite TV show? “Peppa Pig”

What’s your favourite DVD? “Rapunzel” (Tangled)

What’s the best thing about Mummy? “Your cuddles”

What’s the best thing about Daddy? “He spins me around really fast”

What’s your favourite drink? “Apple juice”

What’s your favourite animal? “OW! I’ve got a chicken pox in my ear!!” (She’s currently got Chicken pox if you’d not already guessed)

What’s your favourite animal? “A Cow”

What’s your favourite fruit? “Grapes”

What’s your favourite thing to eat at lunchtime? “Cheese sandwiches”

What’s your favourite thing to do outdoors? “Play football”

“I’ve accidently got chocolate on my bed, Mummy”

Who’s your best friend? “Hollie”

Do you like doing questions like this? “Yes, but you didn’t ask me who my favourite ever person was!”

Who’s your favourite ever person? “I don’t know”

 

This interview was so fun to do, it’s interesting to see what answers they give and how easily they can go off on a tangent. I love how I could ask the same set of questions when she’s 4 years old and get completely different answers. Although, I bet if I asked Katie these questions again tomorrow I’d still get different answers too!

Why don’t you ask these questions to your children and see what they come out with? I’d love to hear what they say!

 

 

 

 

 

Diary of an imperfect mum

Valentines Day gift ideas (Wish list)

 

Valentine’s day is fast approaching and although hubby and I don’t splash out on this day (we get each other a card and a small token gift) I’ve put together my “wish list” for what would be my dream gifts this Valentine’s day.  Massive hints here if you’re reading this hubby!

  1. Perfume. Always a good choice for the ladies and I particularly like the Gucci Premiere perfume at the minute. It’s a lovely fragrance for night time. It retails at around £49 and if you buy it from Boots you can collect your points too. Bonus! Gucci Premiere perfume

2. Ives Saint Laurent Touche Eclat. Perfect for those mums that aren’t quiet getting their 8hrs sleep every night as it hides even the darkest of circles. This lovely little gift set comes with a primer too. Touche Eclat gift set

3. Jo Malone Candle (Pomegranate Noir) . I love candles! And this particular candle has been on my wish list for quite some time. It’s a little bit pricey for a candle but it smells absolutely divine! A perfect gift for the lady who has everything! Jo Malone Pomegranate Noir Candle

4. Chocolates. Good for people on a smaller budget and lovely to receive. My favourite would have to be Ferrero Rocher which can be purchased in most supermarkets.

5. DVD box set. To whatever you taste is but I’ve been dying to watch Pretty little liars for ages! I’ve heard nothing but good things about it. DVD box sets are a nice treat one the little ones are in bed and you have a chance to relax. Pretty Little liars DVD box set

6. Jewellery. Any Jewellery goes down quite nicely with most ladies but I particularly like earrings and these ones from Tiffany are absolutely gorgeous. These ones are £205 but they come in a blue and white box so expect the price tag! Tiffany Paloma Picasso earrings

That’s it for my Valentine’s day wish list. I’d be happy with number 4 but if I got any of the others I’d be a very lucky lady indeed. For now though there’s no harm in dreaming is there? What would be included in your Valentine’s day wish list? I’d love to hear from you!

Meal ideas for a fussy toddler

Meal times. One of the most stressful times of late in our house. What is it with toddlers and food? They are quite happy to eat a piece of dirt off the floor or a Wotsit that has dropped down the side of the bed but when it comes to wholesome cooked food they take one look at it and throw it on the floor! Sound familiar?

When we first started to wean Katie nearly three years ago she was always such a good little baby, she ate all her mashed up veggies and enjoyed her carefully chosen meats and never made so much as a murmur. Even as she grew bigger we never had any real issues surrounding meal times and now she generally eats what we eat without (much) fuss or bribement.

Dylan on the other hand, lord have mercy! That boy and meal times are unreal! Actually, that’s a bit unfair, it’s not ALL meal times. Breakfast and Lunch he eats wonderfully and without much hesitation. But come teatime (or dinner time if your not from up north like me) it’s a proper battle. He is SO fussy. He takes one look at the food in front of him and decides that he doesn’t like it before it’s even touched his mouth! Then cue 5 minutes of me and hubby gently trying to coax him into eating something before he flings it all on the floor. Leaving me no option but to give him a yogurt for tea (for the 3rd day in a row) and all my handy cookery skills going in the bin!!!

If you read my monthly updates on Dylan (latest one, here) you’ll know the struggles I have.

I’m telling myself it’s a faze and deep down I know it is a faze but it’s still frustrating and most importantly it’s worrying because I don’t want him to have just a yogurt for tea! A yogurt’s nutritional value isn’t really up there with fish and veg is it!? But lately we’ve made a bit of a brake through and I’ve managed to compile a small list of meals which actually goes down well with my fussy little monster and I’m hoping to share them to give you a bit of inspiration if your out there struggling too. This list isn’t anything fancy pants or anything that hasn’t been done before and usually takes me no more than 30 minutes to do (who’s got time to spend hours in the kitchen!? Not me!) No records will be broke for culinary imagination here, but they work for me and hopefully they will work for you too!

Sweet potato cottage pie.

From the Joe Wicks Lean in 15 “shift” recipe book. This seems to be a little gem in our household. Relatively easy to do, the sweet potato makes a nice change and if you follow the recipe from the Joe Wicks book, it’s full of hidden veggies and the kids don’t know about it! Mwahahaha! Plus you can make extra portions and freeze it for another day. Winner!

Toad in the hole.

Sausages seem to be a good choice in my house lately. Teamed with Yorkshire pudding and gravy it’s a northerners dream and fairly simple to do.

Spag Bol

Quick and easy to do. The kids enjoy getting their hands in there and sucking the pasta up. A bit messy but nothing a bath doesn’t fix afterwards plus you could add some hidden veggies in the bolognaise if you really wanted to.

Chicken/Steak pie

Home made or shop bought depending on time restraints or what you prefer with mash potato and peas. A small amount of gravy makes the meat nice and soggy and usually quite tasty for my little ones.

That’s my small list at the moment. I find that my meals are based around what the weather is like so it’s all about the home cooked stodge at the minute for us. Do you have a fussy eater at home? If so, what do you usually cook for them as a go-to meal? I’d love to hear from you for some inspiration!

XOXOXO