Dylan – you are 2 years old (A letter to my son)

My Darling Dylan,

You are now two years old. What a fantastic year it’s been since your last birthday. You’ve taught me so much in the last year. Despite me already having experience as as parent I have had to learn a whole new skill set with you. I have learnt to have more patience, to be more understanding and to learn the art of gentle discipline.

You make me laugh out loud every single day with your crazy personality. You laugh and you play in the most innocent way, you really are the most beautiful little boy.

For the last 6 months we’ve all come to realise that patience isn’t one of your strong points. You lose your temper quite easily and can quickly turn from being a happy, smiley little boy in to a little devil. You have the most almighty tantrums and we joke that we all need to take cover when you’re in the middle of one. We also all know that it’s your age that’s to blame for the outbursts and it will soon pass (Please let it be sooner rather than later!).

Your birthday was on Monday and you received lots and lots of lovely toys. You absolutely love Thomas the tank engine and dinosaurs and most of your new toys followed that theme. You were spoilt by family and friends. We had a little party for you the day before your birthday to celebrate and you enjoyed being the centre of attention.

You still love your food. Your day revolves a lot around food and it’s one of my bargaining tools. I can usually get you to do something by offering food as a result. Everyone around you knows you love your food and it’s something you’re known well for. “Where ever food is, Dylan will be”.

You are really close to your sister still and you love her a lot although I have found you arguing a bit more recently. Usually over a toy. It’s not long before you’re laughing and joking together though.

Your personality couldn’t be more different to Katie’s. She is outgoing, confident and very self assured. You are a lot more reserved. You dislike being in a crowded room and it takes you a short while to come out of your shell. You are also frightened of a lot of things that Katie loves to do such as swimming and soft play.  It’s fine, it’s what makes you unique as a person and we handle you completely different to your sister.

We all love you so much Dylan, you brighten up our lives by being in it. There was a short period in the beginning where we feared you may not be apart of our lives at all and it still fills me with dread just thinking about it but you are a fighter – always have been, probably always will be. That’s what makes you so special.

You have your two year check up with the liver consultant in a couple of weeks time and we are all hoping and praying that you get the all clear and they can finally discharge you from their care. It’s something I look forward to and will finally be able to draw a line under it all once and for all.

I’m looking forward to seeing what the next 12 months has in store for us, I hope it brings you as much joy as you bring me. My beautiful, blonde haired wild child.

Happy Birthday sweetheart!





Katie – You are 4 years old (A letter to my Daughter)

My darling Katie,

You are 4 years old. In actual fact, as I write this you are 4 years and 2 months old.

This last year has been amazing and you have gone from your toddler years and grown in to a proper little girl.

We are so proud of you and the little lady you are becoming.

You have just finished your time at Nursery and you are patiently waiting to start school in September. You are so excited for it, and I know you’re ready for it. You made lots of lovely friends at Nursery and were very happy and settled where you were. It’s such a shame that you have now all parted ways and will go to different schools. I know you will make lots of new friends in your new school though as you are a very confident, chatty and outgoing little girl so I don’t ever worry about that.

You were so excited about turning 4. It was a milestone you were desperate to reach. Almost like it confirmed that you were a “big girl”. It will never matter how old you get, you will always be my little girl.

Your party was at a local soft play center and you invited all of your friends. You had so much fun and enjoyed being the center of attention!

You’ve always been so clever, Katie. I’m sure every mum says that about their children, but you really are. You are inspired by life and take in all your surroundings. You are inquisitive and you remember everything that is told to you and everything that happens to you.  You can count to 100 and you are currently learning the alphabet. You practice your writing and letters on a daily basis and feel confident in writing your name and your brothers.

Being 4 is such a bittersweet age for a mum. It’s sad to realise that your baby and toddler years are very far behind you but it’s exciting to know how much of your life you have ahead of you and how many exciting times we have to come.

You are the sweetest, most caring little girl I have ever come across. You take in to consideration everyone’s feelings and are so kind towards people. You really are a beautiful little soul.

We spend most of our days outdoors as this is your favorite place to be. Whether you are running, climbing, jumping, cycling, scooting or playing football you are always on the go. You are very sporty – a trait you DEFINITELY don’t get from me and your current life ambition is to be a gymnast or a footballer (although this changes on a weekly basis).

Daddy bought you a season ticket for Sheffield United this year so you now spend your Saturday’s with him at Bramall Lane and you love it. You love the 1-2-1 time you get as a Daddy/Daughter team and you love to watch the game. Your other hobbies include colouring and crafting.

We couldn’t be prouder of you sweetheart. I look forward to seeing what the next 12 months have in store for us.

We love you so much!

K – You are 3 years old


My darling baby girl. You are not a baby anymore, you’re not even a toddler. You are 3 years old today and that officially makes you a fully fledged little girl.  I have mixed feelings about this. In one respect I am heartbroken that you have grown up so quick from the newborn baby I gave birth to 3 years ago and in many ways I am so fiercely proud of the amazing little girl that you have become.  You truly are a blessing. I started this blog only 6 months ago so I write about your brothers milestones on a monthly basis as his development is more obvious with being a baby than yours does now but don’t you ever feel like I haven’t documented your milestones sweetheart. Before I had this blog I used good old pen and paper to write you letters to tell you what you were like at that age. I will show you them when you are older.

The last year has seen you go from a toddler to a confident, chatty (and boy, do you talk!!!) kind little girl. Everyday you amaze me with the stuff you do. You are wise beyond your years! When you hit 2 years old you were a lovely little toddler and I braced myself for that to change as the “terrible twos” hit, but I waited and waited and thankfully they never came. You skipped the tantrum stage and thankfully never threw yourself on the floor in the supermarket (phew!). As the months have grown on and you become closer to 3 years old you have developed a small amount of “threenager” in you. It’s only minor and most days our time goes by without a hitch. There is the odd day though when you do definitely get up on the wrong side of the bed and it’s like living with Kevin when you are all huffy and stampy footed. It doesn’t happen that often though and I do find it rather amusing (although you will never know that!)


It never fails to amaze me on how well you just get on with life and never moan. You take every experience in your stride. When your brother was poorly as a newborn and we had to leave you with your grandparents for a few days at a time you never moaned. You could have done, and you would have been well within your rights too but you were so grown up about it and knew why we had to be away from you. You never made our life difficult and didn’t make me feel anymore guilty than I already did. For that, I will always be thankful to you for and I am so so proud of you for it. You were an absolute superstar.

9 months ago you were told that you would have to wear glasses permanently throughout your childhood and Daddy and I worried that you weren’t going to wear them but again you shocked us with your maturity and wore them without so much as a fuss. Nothing fazes you my darling you just take what life throws at you and you just get on with it. It’s something I could do with learning from you!



Your life was turned upside down when your brother came into the world and it wasn’t just you, me and Daddy anymore. You adapted to life as a foursome really quickly and adore your little brother so much. You are such a fantastic big sister and you really do look after him and protect him.

You thrive on a routine which is something that you have done since a baby and it really works for you. Although you do have some little quirks! Everything has to be in order for you and just as you left them. You struggle to sleep at night if everything you own is not in it’s right place and everything has to be lined up neat and tidy! You have a tatty old comforter called “Rabbit” which you sleep with every night. It really is a rotten old thing that stinks but you’ve had it since you were 3 months old and you can not bare to get rid of it.  You still have a nap in the afternoon (usually around 2hrs) but I am considering stopping them as you are struggling to settle at bedtime.

You have different interests almost every week it’s quite hard to keep up with but at the moment you are really enjoy being outside at the park and on your scooter and scuttle bug. Daddy and I bought you a bike for your birthday so hopefully you will love this and we can make some great memories on it. Your favourite band is Little Mix and you enjoy singing along to their songs in the car. You also like to watch TV and your favourite programmes are Paw Patrol, Blaze and the monster machines and Peppa Pig.

You love to dance so we enrolled you in a dance class at our local dance school. You started off doing “Little bear feet” which was a general dance class but you quickly decided that you wanted to do Ballet so you now do Ballet lessons on a Saturday morning and you love it!


You attend nursery (or school as you call it) once a week which you really enjoy. You love socialising and making friends so in September you will be going for a few hours every day to help you adapt when it’s time for you to start school.

You are so intelligent daring, it’s actually quite scary. You are a quick learner and I get so many comments from people telling me how intelligent you are! You are my bright little girl and I expect you will go far in your life.

I can’t believe how fast these last 3 years have gone! I know that time won’t slow down either. I hope you enjoy the life you have darling as Mummy and Daddy work hard to make sure that you experience as much as possible and have as much fun as you can along the way. It’s been a great year, lets hope the next year is just as good. Keep safe my darling girl, we love you so much.

Happy Birthday!



First days and statement necklaces #littleloves

Fri-yay! It literally feels like two minutes ago since I wrote last fridays #littlelove post

It has been a week of emotional highs for the FLAM household as, after weeks of searching and prepping K for nursery, her first day finally came. She will only be going once a week to start with for 4 hours but I feel it will do us both a world of good. She had such a great time and made plenty of new friends. She was buzzing for the rest of the day when she came home and can’t wait to go again soon.

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Things I am loving this week…


I usually read at night because it’s the only real time I get to sit and concentrate but I’ve been so tired this week due to a sleep-shy baby I haven’t been interested. That said, I have a couple of magazine subscriptions (gurgle and green parent) and one of them came this week so I made time to sit with a brew and read that! I’m hoping to start a new book next week providing I get some much needed sleep!



This week I heard about the sad passing of Sir Terry Wogan. I really liked him as a TV presenter. He used to make me laugh with his quick witted comedy. It is really sad how many people in the public eye have died from cancer this year already. It makes me realise that you shouldn’t take life for granted and to live every day as it comes!


This week I have been catching up on Bodyshockers: Nips, tucks and tattoos with Katie Piper. I have never hid the fact that I like trash/easy viewing TV at night and this is perfect. Especially when I’m busy and I have one eye on the TV and one eye on the computer/phone.  It is a programme that I generally watch on my own though as my husband is very squeamish and will not watch anything involving blood or surgical procedures.


This week we have been doing some seasonal valentines day crafts and baking. (Watch out next week for some posts on that) K and I made these heart shaped cookies for daddy. I won’t go in to too much detail as it will spoil a blog post I have in mind for next week. It was so much fun and K really enjoyed making (and eating) them.



This week I have been loving the blazer and statement necklace look. It’s a look that instantly pulls you together and  makes you feel like you’ve made an effort when you really haven’t. Its easy going and chic. I have been loving these statement necklaces which I picked up in M&S for pennies. I couldn’t believe my luck. I think they are fab! I just need to practice the art of taking selfies!!

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And lastly…

It’s definitely a Fri-yay for me this week as I am leaving my babies with their daddy this weekend and I am heading to Liverpool with my girlfriends for the night for a belated birthday celebration. I literally can not wait. I love my babies and my husband but I haven’t been away for the night with my friends since before I got pregnant with K which is over 3 years ago. I will say, it is much overdue. I am looking forward to good food, nice cocktails and great company. Being able to let my hair down and be off mummy duty for the night is just what the doctor ordered!

That’s it from me this week. What have you been up to? I’d love to hear from you.


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