The Me and Mine Project (March 2017) A Family Portrait

March has been a funny old month. The clocks went forward last weekend which left us an hour short on time and the weather has been absolutely crazy. One minute the sun was splitting the trees and we had no coats on and then the next the met office had issued a weather warning out for snow. SNOW. In March! I know, It’s ridiculous.

I think I start every family post with the line “It’s been a busy old month”…but it really has been a busy old month. Such is family life eh!?

Our new kitchen and flooring got installed in the 1st week of this month which is super exciting. It meant that our house was upside down for a couple of weeks though which is less than ideal. It’s all finally coming together now though and it looks amazing. I’m so pleased with it.

Katie had two dance exams which she passed with flying colours! We were so proud of her (although, can you fail a 3 year old in a dance exam? I hardly think so) So she had two new shiney medals to take home and are in pride of place in her bedroom.

March has been a month of bugs and illness in our house. Dylan came down with a wheeze and a chesty cough which saw us spend the night in the hospital with him. He was treated for croup and is absolutely fine now. I hate it when the little ones are ill. It makes me so anxious. It’s a horrible time. I always wish that I could have all their illnesses and bugs so they didn’t need to get them. I’m sure every parent thinks like that though.

The hubby has been away last weekend on his brothers stag du in Tenerife so we’ve got this week off to do lots of nice family things and days out. Our pictures this month were taken at the seaside and in our back garden. A slight mixture but I forgot to take my camera out with me on our days trips this month (!). Kids love the seaside don’t they!? Heck, I love the seaside. The sun, the sand, the ice creams! Children laughing and having fun! It’s fantastic. Let’s hope the summer brings lot’s more trips to the seaside!

 

This month

Mummy is loving

The new kitchen

“Hurrah for gin”

Broadchurch

Daddy is loving

The new kitchen

Being in Tenerife

Getting him and Katie a season ticket for the football

Katie is loving

Her dance medals

The seaside

Trolls Soundtrack

Dylan is loving

In the night garden

Peppa pig

Footballs

 

An out-take. When you cant control an 18 mth old

The photo’s are so blurry, I wasn’t happy with the way they came out at all. I can only assume it’s because we are on a hill and the wind was blowing my tripod. I’ll never make a professional photographer haha!

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Motherhood. The good, the bad and the eye bags

It’s 3am and the house is quiet. Everyone’s asleep (or trying to sleep) all except for me and Dylan. It’s the 5th time I’ve had to get up with him since I went to bed at 10pm. I’m not sure what’s unsettling him. I don’t know whether he’s teething, he’s feeling unwell or whether he just wants some company.

What I do know is that I’m the only one at this hour that can comfort him.

As he lays there on my chest, his head rested on my shoulder he instantly relaxes. Whatever was bothering him seems to bother him no longer so long as he’s in my arms. When I think he’s drifted off to sleep I try to gently lay him back in his cot only for him to cry again. It really is exhausting. I never had sleeping issues with my daughter. She was always such a good little sleeper and even now she sleeps 7:30pm-7:30am. I wrote in a post a couple of weeks ago (Dylan – You are 17 months old) that, after 17 long months of wakeful nights, you had finally cracked the sleeping through bit. Well that post came back to bite me on the arse because he’s not slept through since!

What is it about little ones needing you? It’s a mothering battle that I will never win. On one hand I’m at the end of my tether, praying that tonight will be the night he sleeps through and on the other hand I feel an overwhelming sense of love and softness when it’s the still of the night and it’s only us two. Nestled in each other, not making a sound and just enjoying the quiet cuddles. It’s like our own special club. I feel like I’m needed and that I serve a purpose. I remind myself that these moments, however exhausting they are, won’t last forever.

The days without sleep are hard. My patience is short, my energy levels are zapped and I have bags under my eyes big enough to carry the weekly shop in.

But you just cope don’t you?

You do whatever you can to survive and get through the day and do it all again the next night. Because that’s what motherhood, or parenthood, is. It’s surviving. It’s about winging it at every opportunity. You pray to the big man upstairs that tonight will be the night that you get more than a 2 hour stretch of sleep before you have to get up again and when you hear those faint little cry’s (that soon turn it to extra loud wails if your not quick enough!) your heart sinks a little bit. But as soon as you realise that those cry’s were for you and your touch, every little irritated and exhausted feeling goes straight out of the window. That’s motherhood. It’s the good, the bad and the eye bags all rolled in to one and do you know what? I wouldn’t have it any other way! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dylan – You are 16 months old (A letter to my son)

My darling Dylan,

I haven’t written to you for the last few months as I thought now that your 1 years old I’d let you know what you’d been up to every few months, I hope that’s ok!

These last 4 months have been brilliant sweetheart, you are progressing so much. You took your first couple of wobbly steps the week before Christmas (at 15 months) and now there’s no stopping you! You are toddling about the house much more confidently now and much more regularly although I still think you prefer to crawl as it gets you there faster!

You are responding more to communication and making relevant noises when we ask you questions. Your favourite word at the moment is “yeah” – you say this in response to almost everything.

Katie has noticed more of a change in you than anyone I think, as you can fully play with her now although there is a little bit of frustration on her part when you brake/rip/throw her toys whilst your playing and I have noticed I’ve had to intervene a couple of times! She currently enjoys asking you what “ra-ra does” as you always respond with “Roar”! She finds this very funny.

You are taking much more of an interest in things now and you like “In the night garden”, “Thomas the tank engine” and “Ra-Ra the noisy lion”. You enjoy playing with cars and dinosaurs too.

Sleeping through the night is still a bit hit and miss darling, we’ve had the odd night lately where you’ve slept from 7:30pm-6am but usually you still wake once or twice during the night. Your quite easy to resettle though so it’s not too much of an issue just yet. No matter how much sleep you’ve had (or lack of) you nearly always wake up at 6am.

Meal times for you are the same every.single.day! Breakfast and lunch time you eat like a horse then come tea time you eat absolutely nothing!! You won’t even try it, your so fussy! I’m hoping it’s just a faze and you grow out of it soon as it can be quite stressful in the evening when all your doing is throwing food on the floor!

Your cheeky mischievous side is still there and growing by the day, your becoming aware of what you shouldn’t be doing (like drawing on the walls!!!!!!!) and doing it anyway! But you then laugh and then we laugh…You get away with murder!

We still have to be careful with you sometimes though sweetheart as you have a temper like a raging bull! Some days, particularly in the evening when your tired you can have some almighty temper tantrums where you throw yourself on the floor in dismay! It makes me smile though as I like to think it’s your fiery side coming through and surely that’s not always a bad thing!? Like everything though, I’m sure it’s just a faze.

I think that’s about it for now my darling, we all love you so much.

Stay mischievous , no one likes a boring baby!

XOXOXO

 

Diary of an imperfect mum

Siblings (January 2017)

There is 2 years and 3 months between my two and for every day that goes by I feel like that age gap is closing in. Dylan is toddling around more and more each day and for longer periods of time. It still amuses Katie when he stands up to walk and although the novelty has worn off for us a little bit, Katie still squeals in delight when he walks,  like it’s the first time he’s done it! She literally is his number one fan! She’s always encouraging him to do more and being really supportive when he does something new. They are able to play together now in a way that they’ve never been able to before. Dylan is no longer the boring baby that can’t do much whom Katie has to be gentle with. We still ask her to be gentle with him…it doesn’t work and Dylan weighs nearly the same as her so he gives as good as he gets now.

Photographing them together this month has been HARD WORK.  Firstly the weather has been either too wet or too cold to spend long periods outside and when I’ve managed to get my camera out in the house Dylan doesn’t sit there long enough for the flash to go off. I’ve deleted umpteen photos on my camera these last few days because they were too blurry from where one of them had moved!

They still absolutely adore one another like they always have. Except now I feel (if possible) that their bond is even closer because Katie has a partner in crime (or someone to blame if it all goes wrong – Dylan did it!) She still plays Mother hen to him and is very cautious of his safety. Always making sure the stair gates are closed and helping him walk when he’s feeling a bit wobbly. She’s so kind and caring when it comes to anything like that. They really are the best of friends. I love my siblings so much and can not wait to see how their relationship grows over the next 12 months.

XOXOXO

 

 

The Me and Mine Project

Our family Christmas 2016

Christmas day feels like a life time ago now that we are in January but I am only just catching up with blog posts since December so better to blog about it late than not at all.

Christmas for us has been at home since K was born. Before we had children James and I used to spend Christmas morning alone together then go to his parents for lunch one year then alternate it the next year to my parents. Since the kiddies came along we now don’t go out at all and since we moved in to a bigger house with more room we now host Christmas day which means both sets of parents and my brother come to us. To say it’s busy is an understatement but it’s so lovely and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Christmas morning started at 7am when the kiddies woke up and we went downstairs to see if “he’d been”. K was super excited as she’s at the age where she’s fallen for the whole Christmas magic so it was wonderful to become wrapped up in her enthusiasm and poor D still didn’t have a clue what was going on!

We spent the next hour opening all the presents that Santa had brought. We were all super spoilt this year, like every year and I couldn’t see our living room floor for toys! I spent the following week buying storage solutions and trying to tidy all the new toys away!

Christmas dinner was lovely (even if I do say so myself) eating food, pulling crackers and telling jokes and we spent the rest of the afternoon playing with games (mainly Twister) and toys. Both K and D relish having parents, grandparents and uncles all under one roof and I’m hoping it’s something that happens year in, year out so they have the greatest memories of us all together.

I did a small buffet in the evening for anyone who was hungry and we spent the evening relaxing and drinking lots of alcohol. K went to bed at around 9:30pm but D couldn’t stay up past 8pm bless him! Everyone stayed over at our house so they didn’t have to worry about getting home. It meant that we all woke up together on boxing day morning which again, was really lovely.

I didn’t take that many photos of Christmas day as I was too wrapped up in the moment, which is never a bad thing, but before the kiddies went to bed I did manage to quickly whip the tripod out to take a photo of us all together. It truly was a lovely day filled with fun, laughter, family and memories which is exactly what Christmas day should be.

I can’t believe we are in 2017 now! I have so many hopes for this year and hope it will be really special. I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas like I did and I hope 2017 brings you health and happiness!

XOXOXO