I always knew I wanted to be a mum, it was always in my “life plan”. I also knew that I wanted them to be close in age so that they could grow up together and maybe be best friends. I’ve mentioned before that I’ll never quite know if my family is complete and the prospect of a 3rd child will always be somewhat of a question mark but for now I’m happy with the two I’ve got. There’s 2 years and 3 months between the two of them and it’s quite tricky sometimes having two children under the age of 3. I know there are plenty of people out there who have smaller age gaps between their children and I have the upmost respect for them. It’s not easy no matter what the age gap but I’ve wrote down a few of my tips that help me cope looking after two small children.
Get out of the house – It genuinely doesn’t matter where you go, or what you really do so long as you spend a portion of your day (everyday) out of the house. Go to the park, baby groups, supermarket anything. My worst days with two children are the days where I’ve been couped up in the house.
Allow more time – This goes hand in hand with the above advice. It takes me twice as long (if not more) to get 3 of us ready and out than it ever did when I had just one child. Allow plenty of time so you don’t end up barking orders at your children.
Spend quality time with each of them – When D takes a nap in a morning I always make sure I stop whatever I’m doing and get on the floor and play with my daughter. It gives us quality time where she has my undivided attention without the distraction of a baby. Likewise, K still goes to her grandparents on Mondays and Fridays as these are the days I used to work so it gives me one to one time with D.
Keep on track with the housework Something I’m still trying to master! My house will never be a show home of any sort and will always be that little bit cluttered but it’s a typical loving family home. It’s hard work making sure that the children and hubby are taken care of and the house is running smoothly and as I’ve already stated, I’ve probably dropped the ball a few times when it comes to the housework but trying to keep on top of the endless washing piles and dirty dishes makes your home life run that little bit more smoothly meaning that ultimately you get more free time to spend with your children. 30 minutes per day should ensure that everything is ship shape.
Have “me” time – This is so important yet most of us don’t do it. I know I don’t do it half as much as I should for fear of feeling self indulgent but something as simple as a hot soak in the bath once the kids have gone to bed will help you relax and regroup. A happy mummy makes for a happy home!