The whole breast feeding Vs bottle feeding debate is something that has gone on for many many years and a debate which every mum has an opinion on. It’s a subject that can rattle even the most placid of people. But my question for you is WHY!? Why is it a “debate”? Why does it cause so much controversy? Why does it make people feel like they have a right to judge mothers for the way they feed THEIR baby? There are pros and cons to both methods of feeding.
We all know that breast feeding is classed as being the best source of nutrients to provide to our baby. Breast feeding is such a wonderfully natural thing. It is “classed” as the best way to bond with your baby and most of all – it’s free of charge. Now I genuinely would have loved to breast feed both of my children, it was my choice of feeding for my babies. But sadly, due to a number of reasons that choice was out of my hands and I couldn’t breast feed either of them. Therefore I fed my babies with formula via a bottle. Does that make me any less of a good mother than the mum in the next bed to me in the hospital who was breast feeding her baby? – No. Have I bonded any less with my babies because I couldn’t breast feed? – Absolutely not. Should I be judged for feeding my baby via a bottle? – Hell no. Do you know the reasons why I’m feeding my baby from a bottle? – You really don’t. Is my baby thriving, happy, cared for and loved? – More than anything.
To those mothers who are breast feeding – You are amazing for giving up your body for your child. The pressure that you have for exclusively breast feeding is immense. Only you can do those night feeds and it’s only you that is knackered. For that, I salute you. No one should judge you for breast feeding. Please don’t feel ashamed to breast feed in public. It is natural, it’s such a beautiful thing to see. If people have an issue with it, it is THEIR issue not yours. Don’t ever feel embarrassed about the fact that your baby needs his lunch. Well done for being able to breast feed. It doesn’t come natural to some people. You are awesome.
To those mothers that chose (or don’t have a choice) to bottle feed – I understand your reasons for choosing to feed your baby via formula. I also understand the dread you feel when you tell people of your choice. Don’t feel that dread. There is no shame in bottle feeding. There is no need to justify why you are feeding him formula. I understand the faffing of having to make up a bottle during the night, and having to make sure the bottles and teats are sterilised. I also understand the glory of how amazing the Tommy Tippee prep machine is! I understand that Daddy can help feed the baby during the night so you can get some rest. Well done for formula feeding. You are awesome.
What I am trying to say is – whether it’s breast or bottle, ultimately we are still feeding our baby. We are all doing a fantastic job regardless. Motherhood is such a tough job as it is and we need the support of other mums not judgement from them. We should be a sisterhood and stick together. Milk is milk. 30 years down the line our children wont perform any differently because of how they were fed as a baby. C’mon ladies, lets drop the debate and celebrate that we love our babies. Who cares how they are fed!