Breast feeding Vs Bottle feeding – The debate….and why it really doesn’t matter


The whole breast feeding Vs bottle feeding debate is something that has gone on for many many years and a debate which every mum has an opinion on. It’s a subject that can rattle even the most placid of people. But my question for you is WHY!? Why is it a “debate”? Why does it cause so much controversy? Why does it make people feel like they have a right to judge mothers for the way they feed THEIR baby? There are pros and cons to both methods of feeding.

We all know that breast feeding is classed as being the best source of nutrients to provide to our baby. Breast feeding is such a wonderfully natural thing. It is “classed” as the best way to bond with your baby and most of all – it’s free of charge. Now I genuinely would have loved to breast feed both of my children, it was my choice of feeding for my babies. But sadly, due to a number of reasons that choice was out of my hands and I couldn’t breast feed either of them. Therefore I fed my babies with formula via a bottle. Does that make me any less of a good mother than the mum in the next bed to me in the hospital who was breast feeding her baby? – No. Have I bonded any less with my babies because I couldn’t breast feed? – Absolutely not. Should I be judged for feeding my baby via a bottle? – Hell no. Do you know the reasons why I’m feeding my baby from a bottle? – You really don’t. Is my baby thriving, happy, cared for and loved? – More than anything.

To those mothers who are breast feeding – You are amazing for giving up your body for your child. The pressure that you have for exclusively breast feeding is immense. Only you can do those night feeds and it’s only you that is knackered. For that, I salute you. No one should judge you for breast feeding. Please don’t feel ashamed to breast feed in public. It is natural, it’s such a beautiful thing to see. If people have an issue with it, it is THEIR issue not yours. Don’t ever feel embarrassed about the fact that your baby needs his lunch. Well done for being able to breast feed. It doesn’t come natural to some people. You are awesome.

To those mothers that chose (or don’t have a choice) to bottle feed –  I understand your reasons for choosing to feed your baby via formula. I also understand the dread you feel when you tell people of your choice. Don’t feel that dread. There is no shame in bottle feeding. There is no need to justify why you are feeding him formula. I understand the faffing of having to make up a bottle during the night, and having to make sure the bottles and teats are sterilised. I also understand the glory of how amazing the Tommy Tippee prep machine is! I understand that Daddy can help feed the baby during the night so you can get some rest. Well done for formula feeding. You are awesome.

What I am trying to say is –  whether it’s breast or bottle, ultimately we are still feeding our baby. We are all doing a fantastic job regardless. Motherhood is such a tough job as it is and we need the support of other mums not judgement from them. We should be a sisterhood and stick together. Milk is milk. 30 years down the line our children wont perform any differently because of how they were fed as a baby. C’mon ladies, lets drop the debate and celebrate that we love our babies. Who cares how they are fed!






  1. One Messy Mama 7th April 2016 / 16:19

    I really loved this article. We tend to be scared to just say.. I CHOSE to have a C-section or I CHOSE to use a bottle. Regardless of our reasons you are quite right. We are mothers. Our responsibility is to raise and love our children to be amazing grown ups. However we do it, as long as we are doing our best, that’s all that matters. #coolmumclub

    • Collette 7th April 2016 / 21:31

      Absolutely. Some people choose a method some people don’t have that choice but either way it doesn’t matter. Thanks so much for reading and your comment xx

  2. Talya 8th April 2016 / 18:44

    So long as you’re feeding…that’s really all that matters! Thanks so much for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely x

  3. Sarah 26th April 2016 / 14:06

    I do agree with this post, and the fact that as long as the baby is fed, and everyone’s happy, then that’s all that matters.
    I have breastfed both my little ones, but I totally understand and feel for the mothers who are being judged for bottle feeding, when they wanted to breastfeed but couldn’t. That’s not fair at all.

    But in all honesty, I do..slightly judge people if they don’t even try. If they want to keep their figure, or lose weight or whatever reason. Why cant they just give it a go, or even express.

    Hopefully no one takes offence, but thats just my opinion.
    Thanks for sharing this post.
    Sarah xx

  4. Morgan Prince 26th April 2016 / 15:29

    Very well said! I’ve always wondered why there was such a debate on this. I was pressured into breastfeeding my first born, it was difficult and BP struggled. For one week I breastfed him. He lost weight, almost had to go back into hospital. That’s when I switched to formula. LP went pretty much the same only this time I breastfed for 2 weeks. My nipples were cracked, bleeding and sore. And LP was losing weight. He was born at 5lb 5oz so when he started losing rather than gaining weight the midwife got worried. Again I switched to formula and he suddenly started gaining weight.
    In both LP and BP’s cases I would’ve chosen to swap anyway, I didn’t get on very well with breastfeeding, but I don’t feel any less of a mother because of it! We all do it in our own way for our own children.
    Great post, and I’m sure it’ll spark some discussions.

    • Collette 26th April 2016 / 20:06

      Thanks for reading. I genuinely believe that breastfeeding isn’t for everyone and it is a personal choice on what you feed your baby. Whatever works xx

  5. Stacey 18th August 2016 / 20:54

    Yes, you’re so right! We should stick together as mothers, through this we can create a supportive environment, in which it doesn’t matter how you feed your baby. We all want the best for our families and these choices might not be best for others.
    I heard a lot of times that I’m poisoning my baby because I feed her formula, but people didn’t know what I was going through. Breast feeding just didn’t work out for us. Formula nowadays comes really close to breast milk. I researched a lot online and ordered organic formula on for my little one. Organic formulas are free from GMO-ingredients, hormones, antibiotics and sugars.
    Kind regards,

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